When a Dad Treasures his Daughter

Some father’s naturally gravitate to their sons and need some coaching on how to connect with a daughter.  The benefit of a father perusing a relationship with his daughter is that he is shaping her future.

A father’s influence in his daughter’s life shapes her current view of herself and her future expectations of others; shaping her self-esteem, self-image, confidence and opinions of men.

A step father can definitely take the place of a father who is absent or bring added value when the biological father is available.

My daughter was twelve years old when my husband and I became a blended family.  He consistently spoke encouraging words over her.  Brian showed an interest in what she was doing and generously gave up his time to talk with her.  He taught her how to drive and made her feel special by taking her to a favorite restaurant.  When she was a teenager she shared several times how she would have both her father and her step father walk her down the isle when she got married. 

When it came time for planning her wedding, my daughter was absolute about both of her dads participating equally.  She had been valued and it showed.  My husband treasured her as a child and even though she is grown now, he is one of her biggest encouragers.

Jesus says this about who and what we invest our time in:

19 “Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal; 20 but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. 21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

Bryan and Faith going to a Daddy Daughter Date, 2014

Bryan and Faith going to a Daddy Daughter Date, 2014

In an article on She Knows website it says:

A dad’s involvement in his daughter’s life is a crucial ingredient in the development of a young woman’s self-esteem. Austin identifies positive elements of “common sense” parenting for dads so they can help support their daughter’s self-image and curb any possibility of low self-esteem: Verbal encouragement, being consistently present in her life, being alert and sensitive to her feelings, taking time to listen to her thoughts and taking an active interest in her hobbies.

“It’s important to actually do these things, which can sometimes be quite challenging,” Austin adds. Direct involvement and encouragement by her father will help diminish a girl’s insecurity and increase her confidence in her own abilities.



In another  article I found on Very Well Family they posted about the Benefits of Father-Daughter Relationships

We can all read about how important it is for fathers to connect with their daughters, the question is how much it affects their daily life.  Family research suggests that daughters who have secure and loving relationships with their fathers:

Have better grades in school 

Feel better about themselves

Are more assertive without being aggressive

Feel more  confident in relationships with men in general

Are more likely to be admitted to graduate school and get a degree

 The lifelong positive of a good  father-daughter relationship is when you can see how your love, connection and positive encouragement has impacted someone else’s life.  Nurturing that kind of relationship can be a real growth opportunity for a father.

Through the years…… Bryan and Faith Collingwood.

Through the years…… Bryan and Faith Collingwood.

 So what can a father do to create a loving and secure relationship with his daughter?

The Daddy Daughter Date Phenomenon is quite phenomenal.   The photos shared on social media make me tear up.  Way to go dads!

My niece, Jessica Collingwood has encouraged and facilitated a beautiful relationship between her daughter and her husband.  She is the magic behind the Daddy-Daughter date nights.  While Bryan knows the value and has total buy in, Jessica makes sure the Daddy-Daughter dates  happen.  She creates an environment where Faith waits in anticipation for the special night to happen.  Jessica helps Faith pick out the perfect outfit and accessories.  As Jessica caringly fixes Faith’s hair, the excitement builds and then it happens; Bryan walks in with flowers for his little girl.  Honestly, I’m tearing up right now.

 Because Jessica understands that a girl needs to be fully loved by her father, she get’s as excited to make this night special.   Faith is a treasure to both her mom and dad.

You don’t have to wait until the community center or local church plans a Daddy Daughter Date Night. 

First Day of the School year.

Her Birthday.

Last Day of School year.

Celebrate an accomplishment like good grades.

Dads: Consistency is the key here.  Don’t let your daughter get to the point where she is starving for affection because she will find it in the most harmful way.

Vision: What you see in your daughter and what you speak to her has more impact than any one else can have in her life.

 You may want to ask questions that will help her reveal what is in her heart; her fears and her dreams.  She will feel loved and important when you spend the time to hear about who she is becoming and encourage her potential.

Your goal should be to reflect the love that the Lord has for all of his children.  There is no better way to help a girl understand God’s love than to show her by the way you make her feel special.


Bryan and Jessica Collingwood.

Bryan and Jessica Collingwood.

Date your daughter’s Mother so she can see that it’s important for her to be cherished by any man she allows in her life.  She’s going to have high expectations if she has seen you treat her mother well. 

Spoil your wife.

Spend time with your wife.

Speak highly of your wife to others.

Encourage your wife.

Pray for your wife.

A father’s influence in his daughter’s life shapes her self-esteem, self-image, confidence and opinions of men because he is the measure in which she will measure all other men.


A Father Daughter relationship should be the reflection of how God loves us. Bryan and Faith Collingwood.

A Father Daughter relationship should be the reflection of how God loves us. Bryan and Faith Collingwood.